Book Review

Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality by Sarah McBride

Sarah McBride

Genre | Memoir
Page #s | 272
Publishing Date | March 2018

A timely and captivating memoir about gender identity set against the backdrop of the transgender equality movement, by a leading activist and the National Press Secretary for the Human Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest LGBTQ civil rights organization.

Sarah McBride is on a mission to fight for transgender rights around the world. But before she was a prominent activist, and before she became the first transgender person to speak at the Democratic National Convention in 2016, she was a teenager struggling with her identity.

With emotional depth and unparalleled honesty, Sarah shares her personal struggle with gender identity, coming out to her supportive but distraught parents, and finding her way as a woman. She inspires readers with her barrier-breaking political journey that took her, in just four years, from a frightened, closeted college student to one of the nation’s most prominent transgender activists walking the halls of the White House, passing laws, and addressing the country in the midst of a heated presidential election. She also details the heartbreaking romance with her first love and future husband Andy, a trans man and activist, who passed away from cancer in 2014 just days after they were married.

Sarah’s story of identity, love, and tragic loss serves as a powerful entry point for readers who want to gain a deeper understanding of gender identity and what it means to be openly transgender. From issues like bathroom access to healthcare, identification and schools, Sarah weaves the important political milestones, cultural and political debates, and historical context into a personal journey that will open hearts and change minds.

Tomorrow Will Be Different highlights Sarah’s work as an activist and the key issues at the forefront of the fight for trans equality, providing a call-to-arms and empowering look at the road ahead. The fight for equality and freedom has only just begun.


I read this book in two days, utterly engrossed in Sarah’s personal story of coming out as a young trans woman, pursuing a career in politics and activism, and falling in love with a trans man who tragically and suddenly died of cancer. She has lived a more eventful life in her early 20s than most do in a lifetime, and I see from Instagram that after this book was published she became a Delawarean state senator!

The first third of the book covers her childhood and coming out process. Despite some truly painful reactions from her parents, she makes it clear that their statements were largely based in fear for what the world would hold for a trans woman. She dedicated her life to ensuring laws would be in place to protect people like her so that parents would never have to worry about that again; the fact that her parents joined and supported her political fight is incredibly touching. Similarly touching was the way her identity was embraced by the Democratic political leaders she had served under, including now President Joe Biden.

I’m not usually one to be on the edge of my seat while someone describes a law being passed, but Sarah’s descriptions of the Delawarean state legislature arguing over trans rights laws and how she angrily and empathetically shared her story to put a humanizing face to the issue was riveting. She has an inner strength that is absolutely laudable.

In the midst of political stress and success, Sarah falls in love with Andy, a trans man who is an activist for the health care of trans people. They are adorable, romantic, and supportive, but their relationship is cut short when Andy develops fast-moving and fatal cancer. I ugly cried on public transit reading this book; Sarah’s descriptions of their conversations was heartbreaking and lovely. Once again, she allowed her story to be a humanizing element – by showing the depth of trans love, she allows cis people the chance to empathize and understand that love is love is love.

I adored this book, and I now adore Sarah McBride. I can’t wait to see what she does next, both as an author and as a politician. If there’s any justice in the world (and there will be if people like Sarah continue to fight for it), she will go far!

What Makes This Book Queer?

This is a memoir about a trans woman who marries a trans man and fights for trans rights in Delaware and DC – it’s about as queer as a book can get!

Who Would I Recommend This Book To?

Fans of political memoirs who want the inside scoop on how progressive laws take shape AND fans of tragic romance will be equally pleased with this book.

Rating: 5 out of 5.

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